Growing Your Beautiful Life

What Mountains?

Move mountains?  I don’t see any mountains!

Our topic is doubt. What doubt? The doubt that sneaks in and convinces you that you cannot accomplish your goal. The doubt that tells you you’re not enough. That creeping vine that wraps around your dream and squeezes tighter every day.

Here’s the good news:  Even the weed of doubt becomes a seed for progress when you recognize its purpose. Doubt is just you crying out to yourself for encouragement and love!

In this series we’ll explore how to embrace doubt and put it in the hands of the One who turns all things good. Through prayer, meditation, and some easy exercises, your doubt will turn from a weed to a seed, working in your favor.

When I started my research on doubt, I began in the Bible. This verse prompted me to action:

“I tell you the truth, you can say to this mountain, ‘May you be lifted up and thrown into the sea,’ and it will happen. But you must really believe it will happen and have no doubt in your heart.”

What mountains do you see in your way? Are you ready to move them? Move from doubter to doer and watch that landscape take a brand new form.

The Time is Now

I just watched the movie, “I Am Jane Doe.”  I cannot help but be ashamed of our lack of true support for the most vulnerable people in our communities. There should be no question that sex trafficking – especially of children, but certainly of anyone – is tolerated in the United States or around the world. But let’s start by cleaning up our own back yard.

To anyone who knows better than me about how this all works, let me know how I can help.

#GrowingYourBeautifulLife supports #iamjanedoe and the fight against sex trafficking. Please watch this important film: and join the stand again the for-profit rape of children and adults in the U.S. and beyond. Our internet freedoms should not override the safety of the most vulnerable of people. #TheTimeIsNow


Our Life, A Masterpiece

Hello friends. I’ve been gone awhile (more about that later). While I have not been writing, other bloggers have been producing insight, at, and thoughtful dialogue. Here is a post from Mark Weston’s “Heartland” series. If you like it -as I expect you will- please check out his blog, “Paradigm Shift” to read more.


In the deep recesses of my mind, tucked in a well-protected crevasse is Heartland. Memories of my boyhood reside there. It is a place where a boy’s picturesque view of his world makes time stand still. I do not often go there, but when I do a warm memory always welcomes me. Let’s go there now. A memory of my boyhood is waiting for us.

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Northwest of the town square, past the bank, water tower, and United Methodist Church a modest, two story white house rests on a corner lot. My friend John’s aunt lives here. On the west side of the house, an enclosed stairway leads to a second floor apartment. With eager anticipation, John and I climb the steep stair steps.

At the precise moment our feet touch the top step, a “C’mon in boys, there’s work to do” greets us.

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Celebrate Love

Valentine’s Day has always been a day for lovers … hand-holding, shnooky-shnooky, nose-rubbing types of lovers. Husbands and wives. Boyfriends & girlfriends. “Will you marry me?”  “Do you take this man…?”

That’s what it was for me for awhile. Because that’s what I decided it would be.

But wait. Last I checked, there’s no law defining this particular day of the year. No legislative regulation about February 14 in the good ol’ U.S.A.

So while traditions are wonderful and fun and inspiring when they work, let’s not allow our clinging to tradition to cast a shadow on a beautiful day.  Love is everywhere!  Lonely?  Visit a garden!  Isolated?  Take a walk at the park and listen to the birds!  God has given us a beautiful world. So choose to live a beautiful life on February 14 just like you do any other day. Do it for you. Do it for LOVE! Love Everywhere

Illustrate to Motivate!

This VISION JAR helps me remember why I’m saving money!

In my studies on human behavior – and in my personal-development journey – I have learned that there are three main learning styles:  Visual (seeing), Auditory (hearing), and Kinesthetic (doing).  Most people have a preference for one or another, or a combination of the three depending on the learning context. I’m primarily a visual learner. This idea is for the visual learners among us.

First, how do I know I’m a “VIsual”? By paying attention. Here are some clues:

  • When I’m introduced to a new group of people, I struggle to remember names that are told to me…unless people are wearing name tags or someone gives me a list of names ahead of time. I will recognize your face, I will connect the written name with your face. Visual me.
  • Remember the story problems in math class? When my kids needed help with theirs, they’d read them to me out loud. Useless. I’m good at math, but auditory learning isn’t my strength. So I’d say, “bring me the book and let me see it.” Then, I’d understand in a minute. Visual.
  • The boss says, “Connie, why didn’t you do XYZ with QRS and GHI?”  I look at her blankly. What? “I told you yesterday…”  But I didn’t write it down. I never saw the detailed instruction – only heard it. I’m Visual, and I need to write things down and look at them to stay on track.

Sound familiar?  If so, you might be a Visual too. And if you are, you’ll benefit from this concept: “Illustrate to Motivate”!

There are many ways to use this:

  • Goals & Meditation: While meditating, visualize your goals. What does your ideal professional look like? If you were watching your dream vacation as a movie, what would you see? How would it look if you had not financial restraints and could live the way you really want to?
  • Vision Board: Cut or print out pictures and words that represent your goals and dreams, and put them on a poster or cork board. Seeing images of your desires creates a dynamic energy to propel you forward.
  • Vision Jar (pictured at the top of this post):  If saving money is a challenge for you, it might be that the process lacks the visual quality you need to maintain motivation. Cover your Coin Jar or Piggy Bank or even your Bank Book with pictures and words of the things you’re saving for – because it’s not about the money, it’s about what the money will help you achieve.

Use these yourself, with your children, at work or in your church. You know the saying: “A picture’s worth a thousand words.” So live by it, and Illustrate to Motivate!

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God bless, have a wonderful day, and keep on Growing Your Beautiful Life!

Growing My Beautiful Life

Even Coaches have to take time to grow their beautiful lives sometimes. I’ve been a bit distracted lately – that’s the authentic truth.  But here’s something I created today. I’m saying: “What’s up? Come in! Let’s get started!!”Coach connie Faces 2

The Authentic Starting Line

raceThe dream started back around 1995, and what I remember most was the bright red color of blood. I could see it all day so vividly that I could barely focus on work. That’s when I first investigated dream symbols. The first thing I learned was that this impressionable and frightening dream was shouting to me:  “PAY ATTENTION!”

I was standing in a subway station waiting for the train when a man approached. He was dressed in a business suit and tie, shined shoes and not a wrinkle out of place.  He had a pencil in his pocket. The pencil was his weapon; and when he came at me, I was frozen, my feet stuck to the platform like I was cemented there. He stabbed me. And the blood … well, I’ve already talked about the blood.

This was a repetitive dream. Several times a week it haunted me. But thanks to my new friend the Internet, I found information on interpretation and it said my dream was shouting. The violence was the shout. The blood was the shout. And the message was, “PAY ATTENTION!”

The starting line for authentic living isn’t always a pretty white stripe.  The moment we realize we’re cemented into place – and that place isn’t what we really wanted … the moment we realized we’re dressed the way someone else wants us to dress, or we’re working in an environment where we never wanted to work … or we’re waiting and waiting for a train to move us forward to that place we want to be — well, that was the starting line for me, and I’ve been on the journey ever since.

Authenticity is a choice, a transition, and a challenge.  And it’s the most exciting approach to living I can think of.  So if you’re in that place, your toes on the starting line, your adrenaline pumping, ready to go, I encourage you to run, walk or dance your way forward. And, hey, there are plenty of us ready to join and encourage you!  So if you need some company, contact me! Come back. Leave a message. Let’s do this. Authentic Living – there’s really no other way to go.

Who Am I? Part 1

When, if ever, did I stop being me?

When, if ever, did I stop being me?

“I want to ask you a question,” my father said. “I hope you won’t be insulted.”

“Sure. Go ahead,” I responded, curious about what would come next. I was visiting him in his Florida home; we hadn’t seen each other in perhaps ten years. But my father has a reputation for eccentricity and you never know where his thoughts are leading, so I confess to a little apprehension.

“I’m trying to figure out this facebook thing. And I want to ask you: are you really that person you present yourself to be on there?”

If you click the “About Coach Connie” tab on this website and scroll down a bit, you’ll see that “Authenticity” is one of my top life values. Authenticity: I am who I say I am.

“Yes, I am that person,” I said with a chuckle. “I’m purposeful about what I include on social media because I definitely want to be honest about how I present myself online.”

“Good,” he said, “because I think some people are not. And that’s what I don’t like about this electronic communication stuff.”

Authenticity is a challenge. Do I know who I am? Am I leading an authentic life? Am I on the quest to allow the “real me” to blossom and flourish in the world?

I’m dedicating the rest of July and the month of August to the topic of Authenticity. We’ll have a guest blogger, provide some resources, and ask some personal questions. I hope you’ll participate in the conversation. Let’s be authentic together and share in the adventure!

All or Nothing

ImpossibleHave you ever had a thought that just would not leave you alone?  Seriously.  You think the thought, and then you think, “Hmm, that’s interesting,” and then you go back to doing the dishes or singing the song that’s playing on your car radio? Then, three days later, you’re in the grocery store and the guy behind you in line says something to you and, for unknown reasons, that thought pops back in your head?  And on and on it goes – until you actually tell someone.

This blog post is coming from one of those thoughts.  You see, sometimes I dismiss those thoughts as unimportant or as … nothing.  Ironically, “nothing” is what my thought is about.  “Nothing” or the lack of it.

Now that you’re totally confused, hopefully you’ll hang in with me for the big revelation…

“Nothing” is impossible.

That’s it. That’s the thought I haven’t been able to shake for months now. “Nothing” is impossible.

The Bible tells us a couple of things about “nothing” and “all things”

  • But Jesus beheld [them], and said unto them, with men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible. Matthew 19:26
  • Jesus said unto him, If thou canst believe, all things [are] possible to him that believeth. Mark 9:23
  • For with God, nothing shall be impossible. Luke 1:37
  • If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you. Matthew 17:20

Now, when I talk about these verses with people and when I’ve heard them preached, it’s as if the words “nothing” and “all things” are modifying the truly important words: “possible” and “impossible.”  And please hear me – I’m not arguing against that. We teach that “God” and “Possible” are inextricably joined in both instances, and that’s true, and that’s fantastic news.

But guess what? I’m a fussy grammar person.  I don’t know what every grammar rule is called, but often I can tell when something is incorrect, and it sets my mind to thinking about how it should be…or could be. So, I haven’t been able to shake it from my mind that there is another way to understand this phrase:

“Nothing” is impossible.

Consider this possibilityWith God, there is no such thing as nothing.  Or, with God, everything counts. Add to that the idea that “God uses all things for good” and we’re really rolling into something big here!  Because “nothing” is impossible.  “Everything” is possible and “nothing” is impossible.  All I’m doing is putting the emphasis on the actual nouns in each sentence which are “everything” (or “all things”) and “nothing.”  And if “nothing” is impossible then YOU matter!  And your decisions matter.  The way you treat the earth matters and what foods you put in your body matter and that flower growing on your lawn matters and… we are all joined together because with God, “All-things” are possible and all things work together for good.  With God, there is no such thing as “nothing.”

So there it is. My nagging thought. My revelation. And now you might be thinking, “what does this have to do with life coaching?”  My “nothing” revelation is important to coaching because it says something very important about YOU and YOUR PASSIONS and YOUR DREAMS.  It says that they are SOMETHING because they are part of “All-Things” and because there is no such thing as “Nothing.”

All things are possible with God. And God is in all things. And – wow – I don’t know about you but I am excited by that thought!  May God reveal to you the possibilities that lie in all things for you – and that you, surely, are part of all things. Please let me know if you have any thoughts about this – and have a beautiful day!

The Struggle Is Real: Community Calls

This is the level of community and authenticity that opens the shell of the seed buried under the ground and grows your beautiful life. Thanks, Coach Em!

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I had attended church my entire life. I had known Christian community—I had close friends in college, I had worked in the church forever…and yet I was still struggling with issues related to a pornography addiction I had years earlier. I knew that to get the healing I needed, I had to find true, authentic community. And I knew I couldn’t find that on Facebook, Twitter, or social media. Instead, I had to step away from the computer and boldly into a place where I could find the face-to-face accountability that I needed to move forward out of addiction.

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These days, it is easy to “find” community online—to say that we are talking to others, relating to others, and being honest with others because we are connecting with others through social media. But putting all my “junk” into an online forum, staying behind a…

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