You might remember Coach Michelle Hill who was a guest blogger during the Beyond Resolutions series. I’m recommending her most recent blog post (and, actually, the whole series) regarding “Authentic Responsibilities.” You can access this post and the others in the series here: Authentic Responsibilities: You’re Not Psychic?!.
Toolboxes. We all need ’em. Traditionally, toolboxes have been men’s territory: a gift sure to bring a smile! Load it up with tools for the house and the car. Wrenches, hammers, electric screwdriver, nuts-n-bolts – you name it! And repair jobs aren’t just for men anymore – we women have learned to move beyond the stove for sure!
Gardeners have tools too – hoes, weed-pullers, little cartons for seedlings, gardening gloves, etc. A beautiful garden requires all the right tools to keep soil, seeds and blossoms strong and thriving!
Well, it’s not a far stretch to understand that we need tools for growing our lives as well. The folks participating in our BEYOND RESOLUTIONS Journal Challenge learned this. In fact, today they are identifying the tools they discovered during the past six weeks and deciding what to include in their “Toolbox for Life.”
What needs fixing in your life? What tools do you have at your disposal for decision-making, for implementing effective change, for growing your relationships?
Keep your eyes on this blog! Over the next couple of weeks, I’ll be offering some practical advice and new opportunities for you to add to your Toolbox – all with the goal of helping you grow your beautiful life! Of course, I’m here to help with one-on-one coaching as well – the most effective way to achieve those goals you’ve been putting off or decisions you’ve had trouble clarifying.
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Much love and God’s blessings to you all. Have a great day!
I love when things fit together. Here we are, learning to grow our BEAUTIFUL lives, and Coach Laura Link shows up to teach about SMART goals, and I realize once again that SMART IS BEAUTIFUL!
Back in December, I created this whole journaling project with the goal of helping people go “BEYOND RESOLUTIONS” to real action. This is exactly what SMART goals do! Setting specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timed goals takes those broad resolutions (“I’m going to lose weight” or “I’m going to be more open to relationships”) and makes them real!
Here’s a personal example: I wanted to be more organized, generally. One focus area for me is paperwork. (I’m a pile person.) I wanted to move my piles into files so that I would always be able to find the papers I needed when I needed them – and to find them quickly. So of course I needed to do the filing. But first, I needed some file boxes and folders – which I did not have. So my first SMART Goal towards getting organized read like this: “I will purchase two file boxes plus hanging folders, file folders, colored labels and colored pens (I’m visual – I’m adding in colors for fun to help my motivation). I will shop on Wednesday morning approx. 11:30 – after my church meeting.” Notice I didn’t take this any further (into the actual filing process). I kept it simple, definable and focused. I will know when I’ve succeeded and only then will I go on to the next step, whatever that might be.
If you’ve been following along on our journaling (starting 1/12/2014), you will already have a list of action steps to work with for your SMART Goals. Now your challenge is to write out some SMART Goals … just one or two to start. Keep it focused. Keep it simple. Be SMART and be BEAUTIFUL!
NOTE: I will be offering a .pdf of the entire Journal Coaching Challenge after the project has been completed. Interested? Complete the contact form on the “Coaching Packages” page and write “Journal PDF” into the comments to receive more information.
Hello! I am Laura Link, owner and inspired life coach at iLifebalance coaching. I am thrilled to join the discussion about goal setting and how this is a game changer your success!
This week I am excited to present on the topic of S.M.A.R.T. goals. Whatever you are seeking to accomplish, it is important to define what success means to you – to create some guidelines or parameters to organize, remain accountable to, and track your progress with the S.M.A.R.T. goal approach.
There are a few different meanings for the “S.M.A.R.T.” acronym. For the purpose of this example:
So, when you are setting a goal, you want it to satisfy these criteria. Is your goal: specific, measurable and achievable? Does it require you to take action? Is it realistic (you may not know if it is realistic until you have given the goal a good effort)? Have you created a deadline or timeline for this achievement?
I’ve seen some individuals look at S.M.A.R.T. goals as some kind of Pass/Fail situation. If you do this, you may end up feeling disappointed, embarrassed, or uncertain if you don’t achieve your perfect plan. Remember that this is YOUR PLAN – so if you don’t achieve your goal on the first try, evaluate what worked and what didn’t, and create a new S.M.A.R.T. goal. I’ll bet that even if you didn’t achieve your entire goal, you made some good progress – and all progress counts! (Also, If you exceed your goal with little challenge or effort, maybe the goal wasn’t set high enough).
If you’re struggling with achieving your S.M.A.R.T. goals, consider your commitment and motivation: Why is the goal important to you? How will reaching it positively impact your life? What commitment level do you have – on a 1 (low) to 10 (high) scale – to achieving your goal? The answers to these questions will help you know if you’re goal is really what you’re after or if you might need to do a little more “soul searching” to narrow down your priorities. I would suggest asking yourself these questions prior to committing to any SMART goal.
Locke & Latham (2006) Goals can be applied to all areas of living – another advantage to learning this process! Practice, success, and positive experiences will enhance your ability to control outcomes across many domains of your life .*
About Coach Laura Link: Over the past 4 years, I have coached people on preventative health areas such as weight management, stress, tobacco cessation, nutrition, exercise, and back care (all areas where improved choices lead to improved health). I am certified as a Christian Life Coach via the Christian Coach Institute and will apply for Associate Certified Coach with the ICF in 2014.
“You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore. “-Psalm 16:11
*Locke, E. A., & Latham, G. P. (2006). New directions in goal-setting theory. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 15, 5.
My mission at iLifebalance coaching is to inspire individuals to be the best, most actualized person they can be. The lives God has envisioned for us are so much more potent and powerful than lives that are going through the motions. What sets me apart from other coaches in this niche is my enthusiasm and passion for assisting individuals along this journey in addition to my Christian values and beliefs.
**Please leave your comments, questions, experiences with setting goals, and what you learned from this post below!! We look forward to your interaction on this topic. I will stick around to reply to your posts!**
This week we’re setting well-defined goals and identifying action steps to reach those goals. This post is for the visual among us. This picture is YOU before you set goals and action steps for achieving them.
The video below is YOU following your passion, taking action and achieving your dreams! Your Mission IS POSSIBLE! Now get out there and GROW YOUR BEAUTIFUL LIFE!
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Feelings. I’ve had a love ’em / hate ’em relationship with my feelings. Have you ever felt that way? I wanted to write a little more here about our relationship with our feelings before moving on to more practical things this week. As I considered what type of image to use for the post, the wild horse came to mind. Have you ever felt like your emotions had a life of their own?
Believe it or not, we can tame our emotions. What is your response to that idea – taming emotions? Perhaps you say, “Oh, maybe you can tame your emotions” or “Tame my anger? Bahahaha!” or “My emotions define me – I don’t want to tame them!” Whatever your response, I want you to consider this idea: taming emotions is like taming a wild horse – it can be done; you just have to know how. And included in knowing how is a firm commitment to love the animal – because wild things respond differently to enemies. Keep that in mind. Emotions are not your enemy and they are not your ruler.
Monty Roberts is known as “the Man Who Listens to Horses.” (See montyroberts.com/about and see his video here).
In one of his youtube videos, Monty saddles up a wild horse for the first time in under half an hour. Now, I don’t know a lot about horses, but apparently this is amazing. And I realized that his methods can be used by us to tame our fears and other feelings. (Please note that “taming” does not take the life out of the animal being tamed. It just allows you to manage the behavior so that it can run wild at appropriate times and be calm at appropriate times … be useful when needed … and creates a relationship between you and the wild thing.)
So, without writing a whole book, I’ll get to the point. What are the correlations here between wild horses and the anger or sadness or frustration feelings that sometimes rule our lives? Here’s a short list:
We have all been taught different things about emotions: they have a life of their own, or we need to ignore them, or they are scary and we should control them (controlling is different from taming but that’s another story). I say, they are an energetic part of us. We should get to know them. Name them. Walk with them. Let them run in appropriate places and times. And learn from them. You are the owner. You are in charge.
So, in your relationship with your emotions, “who’s the boss?”
As we make our plans…
As we envision the beautiful lives we’re creating this year…
As we set goals and action steps and learn to focus on our strengths…
So often, in the background – and sometimes right in the front of our minds – our fears and doubts sit cozily and comfortably, making themselves at home and preventing us from living fully into our dreams.
Today and tomorrow we are taking time to name these little demons, to look them in the eye, and inform them that they have no power. When you know God as your strength, you grow to realize that fears only have the power we offer them.
My friends, your fears and worries are not reality. They are created by a set of thoughts you’ve chosen to cling to and project into reality. And doing that tends to create self-fulfilling results. It’s time to turn this around:
I have been to my share of recovery-related support groups and one thing I’ve always appreciated about the 12-step format is the advice to “Take the best and leave the rest.” In other words, when you hear some bit of advice or wisdom that applies to you and your situation in a positive way, jot it down…apply it…keep it in your life-tool box for future reference. And if something does not ring true to you, or does not apply, or seems ill-advised, leave it. It’s always your choice whether or not to weave some behavior or philosophy into your life going forward. Hear me: It is always your choice.
This topic has come up in conversations regarding religion as well. I have talked with many people who have the attitude that, if they are in a church, they must adhere to and embody everything the leader teaches about the Bible or life or whatever. So, even if they are agreeable to much of what’s happening and being taught, but disagree with one thing, they’ll leave. Or they’ll say, “I have to see life this way, my pastor said so.”
Sorry. I disagree. If something you are taught – anywhere – rubs you wrong, go home and pray about it. Read up on it. Seek other counsel – then make your decision. Or just leave it be for awhile.
But anyway, this isn’t about churches or Al-anon or religion – this is about YOU! Our BEYOND RESOLUTIONS group is starting to journal about their goals – and you can too. Today’s journal prompt (Week 3, Day 3) asks you to look at the past, take the best – and leave the rest:
JOURNAL ASSIGNMENT 3.3: In the process of life coaching, we rarely reach into the past. Coaching is all about looking forward, setting goals, making plans and carrying them through to positive change. Today is our exception. Today I’m going to ask you to look back for the purpose of grabbing some good ideas – and then leaving the rest behind.
Early this morning, as I pondered about which aspect of spiritual growth to focus on today, I realized that praying about it would be a smart thing to do! During my prayer time, what came to me was the importance of trusting God at all times with all that we have, are and do.
Then I thought, “I would love some confirmation on this.” I picked up my “Jesus Calling,” and turned to the bookmarked page which read:
“Strive to trust me in more and more areas of your life.
Anything that tends to make you anxious is a growth opportunity.
Instead of running away from these challenges,
embrace them, eager to gain all the blessings I have hidden in the difficulties…”
(Jesus Calling by Sarah Young)
That was confirmation enough for me. And so today’s journal prompt is as follows:
PRAYER FOR THE DAY: God, it can be hard to put our troubles in your hands when we cannot see you standing in front of us or talk face-to-face over coffee! In this world, it takes a true leap of faith to trust when we cannot see and touch. So we ask your help. Please show up for us in ways that are undeniable. Forgive our doubt and help us to remember – day to day and minute by minute – that you truly hold us in the palm of your hands – warm, gentle, loving hands. Thank you for being a Power we can trust. Amen.
Friends and Readers,
Today I have the pleasure of introducing to you my friend and colleague, Coach Michelle Hill. Please enjoy her special message, below, on the topic of Spiritual Wellness. For more, visit her regularly at Pushy Prophet Girl Ministries. Read on…
Two Key Principles of Spiritual Wellness
My name is Michelle Hill, and I am the original pushy prophet girl—owner, certified life coach, and certified human behavior consultant at Pushy Prophet Girl Ministries. My goal at Pushy Prophet Girl Ministries is to help you become fearlessly fulfilled—a lifelong process that means stepping boldly into the identity God has given you while becoming emotionally intelligent, physically fit, and spiritually healthy.
Emotional health, physical health, and spiritual health are intricately linked. In his book “Emotionally Healthy Church,” Peter Scazzero says that we cannot be spiritually healthy without being emotionally healthy. In other words, if we do not know how to control our emotions, how to handle pain, and how to deal with our hurts, habits, and hang-ups, then we cannot walk in spiritual health as God intended. As a former addict, I can assure you that emotional intelligence is the starting point to becoming healthy in all areas of your life. And once we have started to become emotionally intelligent, we can move forward in our spiritual health.
In Mark 12:30-31, someone asked Jesus what the greatest commandment was, and Jesus replied, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” From these verses come two important principles of spiritual health:
Are you ready to get started in these two areas of spiritual health? Start expanding your love for God—get connected in a small group in your own church or through Community Bible Study. Begin a Bible reading plan using YouVersion on your computer, phone, or tablet—I use this for a daily reading plan and love it. Find out more about how God has gifted you: check out this free, brief assessment on your motivational spiritual gifts. Or if you would like a more comprehensive assessment, please feel free contact me at Pushy Prophet Girl Ministries regarding personal coaching using the DISC/Spiritual Gifts Assessment.
Whatever avenue you choose, choose to pursue spiritual health! As you begin to understand more about God and your identity in Christ, you will begin to make a larger impact in your own world and in others’!